Sometimes what I learn about myself in my work as a children’s book editor is downright embarrassing and cringe-worthy: that despite my best intentions, my predominantly white upbringing, educational background, and chosen profession have not adequately prepared me to be as…
Wow this is the most disturbing bit of rape culture I’ve seen all day
This is so fucking repulsive this is seriously a fucking tip sheet for abusers holy fuck no
MAKE SURE THEY CRY AND THEN GIVE THEM ALCOHOL AFTERWARD SO THEY THINK YOU STILL LOVE THEM this is fucking disgusting what the FUCK
I think I’m gonna be sick
"Make sure it ends in tears." That’s not love.
"aftercare" is literally grooming your abused, emotionally traumatised partner into a state of comfort so that you can abuse them again
i hate this world
"Rape culture" "abuse" "trauma" ???????? ?? ? ?? ? ???? ? ?
Are yoU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!!? This is a guideline for couples who ENJOY spanking in their relationship, for a wide variety of reasons, like the fact that it’s a KINK!!!!!! IT’S CONSIDERED A PART OF BDSM CULTURE!!!! Notice the very first image says "CONSENTING ADULTS ONLY!!!" THIS IS NOT ABUSE, THIS IS FETISH!!!
THE “AFTERCARE” THAT YOU ARE BITCHING ABOUT IS A **N.E.C.E.S.S.A.R.Y.** PART OF ANY SCENES OR PLAYS THAT A COUPLE PARTICIPATES IN!!! IT’S LITERALLY WHERE YOU TAKE CARE OF AND LOVE ON YOUR PARTNER THAT WAS PUT THROUGH ANY STRESSING ACTS DURING THE SCENE!!!! IT’S A VERY IMPORTANT THING THAT EVERY HEALTHY BDSM RELATED SCENARIO SHOULD END IN!!!!!!!!
OH MY GOD, CAN SOMEONE THAT HAS A MORE EXTENSIVE KNOWLEDGE OF ALL THIS EXPLAIN IT IN MORE DETAIL FOR ME PLEASE?? I AM TOO ANGRY TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO IT!!!!!!
Okay, I’m going to do my best to explain this, though I’m still quite new to the BDSM culture and its ways…
The spanking kink is a common one and it is one that generally introduces people into the BDSM…thing. Its about trust and being honest with yourself and your partner. Its about being able to trust your partner enough that they will do things to you that in every day society would be frowned upon like restraint and spanking. Everyone has different reasons for liking their particular kink - maybe they were raped and they want to take ownership of their body again by letting someone do the same things as their rapist but in controlled conditions, maybe they just have the urge to be submissive once in a while. It doesn’t matter why they do it just that its with consent and with a person they trust.
The after care is the most important part of BDSM. It allows both parties to say what they enjoyed and why, what wasn’t enjoyable and what they wish to try again or what they might like to include in the future. It reaffirms the love and care from both parties, something that is important for a successful BDSM relationship to keep on working. what this post doesn’t talk about and probably should is the preliminary stage to the scene (because BDSM is essentially sexy roleplay) where both parties discuss what is going to happen, any boundaries and most importantly a safe word. This ‘safe word’ is a word that stops all play, no matter what is happening, if the safe word is spoken, everything stops.
BDSM is the opposite of abuse. It is supporting each person in a relationship and acting out each others fantasies in a safe controlled manner.
DOGS ARE SUCH GLORIOUS CREATURES.
I love dogs so much oh my god
waterbending at its finest
Dear white people,
Please stop cosplaying as PoC characters.
Anyone can cosplay as anyone/anything they want. Also, that’s the actual voice actress for Korra. She literally IS the avatar.
I like how everyone seems like they’re dead tired and Thor’s just there going
'om nom nom this is a shawarma nom nom nom'
Notice how Clint and Natasha seemed to have appropriated half of each others’ chairs.
and I think Tony is just realizing that he literally died and was scared back to life by the man to his left
and steve, being the senior citizen, is simply nodding off
Also, the dude behind the counter just nonchalantly making shawarma for the goddamn Avengers like they come in every day.
#meanwhile loki is outside tied to the bike rack with mjolnir on his chest
I’ve reblogged this about five times already and I dont plan on stopping
My new favorite gif set.
how do cats stay alive for more than three seconds
Cats are so fucking stupid I want a thousand
How come when I get a cat she’s just lazy and mean while these nigguhs get the best of the best
Do you ever crave to be touched? Even in the most innocent way. I want someone to just hug me for a very long time or someone to lean against/ someone to lean on me. Maybe while sitting or laying next to someone just to have our legs, arms, or feet touching would be nice. I think that when you’re lonely for so long you constantly want to feel someone against you just as a constant reminder that you’re not alone.
nothing makes a gamer more nervous than when the game autosaves in a seemingly harmless location
"this is an awfully convenient collection of healing items"
"why is all this ammo here"
"where did all the enemies go"
"This room has rather a lot of wide, open space in it."
"The music stopped suddenly."
"No, there it is."
"….That’s an awful lot of bass."
"Do you remember the saddest moment of your life?"
"Probably sitting at the kitchen table with my dad, an hour after my mother died, realizing we had to figure out what we were going to do for lunch."
Seriously, an hour after your mother died and you’re thinking about lunch??
A fucking hour?
Never mind the fact two grown humans couldn’t fend for themselves for a meal without this poor woman.
…uuuuuhhhh, I think the point is that they had an automatic reaction due to family ritual and habit. …and a crushing sadness, the practical, absolute truth that she was gone from their mundane, every day existence hit them like a ton of bricks. And the real grieving could begin.
Like, that’s how the realization of loss WORKS. Ten thousand reblogs says plenty of people understand that.
My father was killed in a car accident when I was a teenager, I don’t make the comment out of ignorance. The problem I have with this memory is that it occured to him an hour after her death, and it was his saddest memory.
Yes, loss can roll over you and catch you unawares with a stupid mundane thing. But an hour after your parent dies, you’re not thinking about lunch, you just aren’t. So many occasions after that hour are going to over run that one memory that you realize is dumb and small and selfish.
Obviously he has every right to feel that way, but I’m still going to think he’s a selfish short sighted twat for it.
Hey I lost my dad when I was fucking 11 and I just want to say that people grieve in a million different ways and you need to get over yourself.
i was 10 when my mom died. she had died the day before my adoptive parents had told me, and the day they broke the news i remember that we ordered pizza, which was odd, because we almost never did. after they told me, i became really, really interested in the food, washing the dishes, cleaning my room, and doing homework, just everyday stuff, for the rest of the day. i wanted something to get my mind off of it.
i’m still grieving, almost a decade later, and for years after, every time my parents ordered take out there was a thought in the back of my mind that something bad had happened or something. moral of the story: don’t ever fucking tell someone that they’re wrong for grieving just because it’s different from the way you do it.